How does your coaching work?
The coaching process is about moving you along the path to where you want to be by creating a safe space for you to connect with you: your thoughts, emotions, needs, values, motivations, beliefs, desires, fears, and vision for the future.
My coaching works by creating this space in which you can talk about yourself in reflective, constructive, and thought-provoking ways – a space that we are not really taught how, let alone encouraged, to indulge in over the course of our lives. By working in this space of honesty, non-judgement, and empathy, clients are able to take action towards their vision of a thriving self...and keep taking action.
Along the way, we use evidence-based exercises that come from a wide range of psychological theories and practices, as needed. My coaching programs are always informed by your aspirations; the client is the driver, and it’s my job to be a guiding passenger. In practice, this means that I provide the structure for our sessions, but what we actually talk about and what evidence-based exercises we use are completely tailored to you.
Ultimately, my coaching works by helping you cultivate an inner foundation of self-awareness, understanding, and care that supports your capacity to live life deliberately. It is explicitly focused on understanding you in an individualized learning process that helps you help yourself, for life.
Why is your coaching program 3 months long? Do I have to sign up for all 3 months?
In my experience, three months is both a long enough time to see progress as well as a short enough time to incite some urgency towards our goals. It is enough time to make mistakes and try again, but not so much time that we feel we can procrastinate taking action.
This time-frame also gives clients the opportunity to learn how to coach themselves; this is the ultimate goal of my coaching, because I truly believe we can learn how to thrive when we’re given the space and knowledge to do so. I’m doing my job well when clients have made progress by the end of our time together, and feel they are entirely whole, resilient, and capable of continuing the journey themselves.
For coaching to really work, it is imperative for both coach and client to commit to the time and work needed to create real change. For these reasons, I only offer 3-month coaching packages to new clients, with the option to extend the program in 3-month increments as needed. If you are a returning client, you can find information about services available to you here.
What differentiates your coaching from other coaches and well-being programs?
A few things! First, my coaching is specifically focused on empowering young adults (usually late teens to late twenties) for three reasons:
1. I believe that what coaching teaches us has the potential to effect cultural change in a positive and critically needed way. I want to live in a world where people are connected with and are encouraged to take care of themselves; where people look for strengths in themselves and others; where people have the capacity, desire, and courage to try to change things for the better; and where our leaders strive to lift humanity up. Young adults are these future leaders who have the potential to radically change their lives, the lives of those around them, and the systems that affect the lives of future generations.
2. I'm a young adult myself! There are too few of us in this area of coaching dedicated to meeting the unique needs of this audience, notably…
3. Young adults in developed societies today are generally navigating a much different world than older generations. So much so that developmental psychologists gave it a name: Emerging Adulthood has been recognized in developed countries as a distinct subset within the young adult life stage, characterized as an age of identity exploration, instability, self-focus, feeling in-between, and possibilities. Researchers are still trying to understand the implications of this new life stage, but we have to start somewhere. I support people in navigating these more abstract feelings by helping them connect to their vision, take action towards their goals, and ultimately thrive long after the coaching program ends.
My coaching is also holistically focused. This means that it’s geared towards empowering you as a whole, complex, unique, and dynamic human being. Topics of conversation can and usually do span anywhere from career and work, to family and friends, to significant others and dating, to failure and success, to meaning and purpose, to simple desires and ambitious dreams. What drives the program is you, and what your vision of thriving inspires within you.
What's the difference between coaching and therapy?
Therapy is administered by a licensed professional and is a treatment commonly focused on helping people navigate mental illness and/or heal trauma. It is past-focused and geared primarily towards helping people understand and/or change their thoughts and emotions.
In contrast, coaching is an action-oriented process focused on helping people achieve in the present and future. A coach’s job is to help clients cultivate internal motivation, confidence, and tools that will move them forward in tangible and deliberate ways. Another important difference is that coaches operate in an unregulated field, so they do not have to be licensed to coach.
Coaching can be a fantastic compliment to therapy; however, it is not a substitute. Coaches are not licensed mental health professionals and cannot act as such. If you are unsure as to what support you require, I encourage you to speak to a trusted family member or friend, reach out to a licensed mental health professional, or connect with me.
How do I know if I could benefit from coaching?
My coaching program could be right for you if you are a young adult - college student, new grad, young professional, or someone who is just generally beginning to build your independent adult life (colloquially and appropriately known as "adulting") - who is:
Struggling to achieve a specific goal or make a specific change in your life
Wanting to make a change but don’t know where to start
Looking to enhance joy, meaning, or purpose in your life
Feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or imbalanced
Feeling lost, unfulfilled, or uncertain
Wanting to thrive – to learn how you specifically can optimize your happiness and well-being
Most importantly, coaching is an investment and a commitment in yourself. To benefit, you must be ready to do the inner work – to come prepared with an open and curious mind, willing to develop yourself from the inside out in order to create real, lasting change.
You may want coaching for other reasons, too.
The International Coach Federation (ICF) is one of the founding accrediting bodies in the professional field of coaching, and their Toronto Chapter goes into more detail about some of the reasons people would seek out a coach. I've copied the ones below that resonate with me as areas in which I can help my clients.
And remember: there's lots of different coaches out there who specialize in specific areas, including Personal Coaches (me), Executive Coaches, Career Coaches, Relationship Coaches, and Health and Wellness Coaches. And fit matters. If my story doesn't resonate with you but you're still interested in working with a coach, I encourage you to check out the ICF's database.
Why would I need coaching?*
Shoulds vs. Inner Needs:
Many people are tired of doing what they feel—or have been told they "should" do. They are ready to do something they decide is special and meaningful with their lives. But they are not sure just what that is. Or, if they have an inkling, they can't see a way to reorient their life around this new focus or direction. A coach can help.
People are realizing how simple it can be to accomplish something that several years ago might have felt out of reach or like a pipe dream. A coach is not a miracle worker (although they frequently occur that way!) but a coach does have a large "tool kit" of distinctions, questions and ideas to help that "Big Idea" become a Reality. Fortunately, people now have time and resources to invest in themselves in this kind of growth.
Many people are searching for a way to be more spiritual, but they are not sure just what that means or how to achieve it. A good working definition of spirituality is the way a person connects with their inner selves, with people around them, and with the universe in general. The coach can help the client explore any or all of these arenas, and to connect more powerfully to each.
Complexity and Change:
Finally, the world is becoming more complex by the day; and the pace of change is accelerating rapidly. Many clients are unsure of themselves in a constantly changing world of which direction to take, how to tackle unusual new challenges, and how to achieve on a frequently changing playing field. A coach is trained to ask the kind of questions that help clients understand themselves and their world, make the right decisions, and move forward with confidence (ICF Los Angeles).
*Copied from ICF Toronto, "Other Areas of Focus"
How do I know if you're the right coach for me?
Making sure there’s a good fit between coach and client is an important part of any coaching relationship. That’s why I always schedule a 30-minute discovery call with people who are interested in going through my coaching program, at no cost. This allows me to understand your goals better, and for you to ask me any questions you may have about the program before signing on. You can get in touch with me to book your discovery call here.
It's not the right time for me to commit to a coaching program, but I want to keep it in mind for the future. How can I stay in touch with you?
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